Fundamental Changes in My Parenting

In the '90s, I hated the park. My older children would want to go and I would deny them every single time. I always had a reason why we didn't want to go when all the while "I didn't want to go." I was a selfish parent when I first started out. I know I was selfish, and I never tried to deny it. I have come to terms with it and I make no excuses for it. Now I am well into my late 30s with two small children.

I have learned from my past behaviors and I have made a logical and mindful effort to not repeat my past behaviors again. I make it my business to accommodate, and realize that it takes more than being there in the morning to make a good parent (of course I did more than that, but that used to be a favorite line of mine when trying to defend my bad, unwavering behavior).

I have been to the park countless times this summer and I have grown very fond of this outing that I get to share with them on a weekly basis. The park has an abundance of activities for children as well as adults. From walking the trail to get a quick swing on the swing set. "I LOVE THE SWINGS!"

Having this opportunity a second time brings me so much joy to see the little people (what I refer to my small children) having a ball and making new friends and hooking up with last weeks cool kids and everyone have a good time. But it brings me a deep sadness that I was so selfish with my older children that we didn't get to have these memories.

I have great memories with my kids from amusement parks, car rides, family dinners, and the list goes on. For me, the smallest and cheapest activities make the fondest memories.

Today I was in the park with my little people and they were laughing, playing, acting goofy and interacting with the small children there at Glasgow park. It was great to see them having fun the way that they were. I am apologetic to my first set of children that we don't have these memories but we have agreed to create new ones.

Moral of the story acknowledge past behaviors that were or are negative and change them. Don't change them for someone else but change them for yourself. "Don't Just Want Better, Be Better."

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The Pathway

 

Sometimes I just need a few extra moments in the day. I sit and I take the time to review my day. I write notes and list and I continue to a few things the ''old-fashioned" way, with an actual pen and paper. I do this to reflect on my life. I think of how there was a time when things were simple. When I was able to be held, coddled, comforted and made to feel secure. 

Those days are long gone and now it is my turn to do those things for someone else. I have come to notice that everything I do someone else has become the focus of my hopes, my dreams, my aspirations as well as my desires. 

I am human first and I have to reflect on that because if I don't I will forget what it is to be human. Being human gives you the right to be wrong, be flawed, be finicky, to be unsure, and to waiver in your decisions.

Being a woman, a wife, a mother, a business owner, and a friend does not give you the right to be wrong, to be flawed, to be finicky, to be unsure or to waiver. In my everyday life for at least 22 hours out of the day... [a sigh and a deep breath] I am perfect, confident, steadfast, for sure, on point and the foundation of my family, my business and my friendships. 

That's who I am expected to be and my excel for my 22 hours. I don't take the time to pout and point my fingers to lay blame elsewhere. I take full responsibility for the flaws of the others in my life so that when it is their turn and they are strolling down their pathway, they will be eager to accept the expectations that the world has for them because I am setting an example of how to stroll down that path.

Life can not be rushed and it is a process. We just have to learn how to manage and maximize it. How do you stroll down your path? Leave a comment and let me know your tips for getting through the day. I would love some pointers.

Warmest Regards;

Loretta Bruce

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GOFundMe

Today, I thought about my company while I was working from home and I thought there has to be a way to get funding without going through the traditional methods, hassles and high interest rates of the bank. I did an internet search and I found a wealth of information.

While trying to decipher what would work for me and my needs and what wouldn't I chose two programs to use.

1. GoFundMe: The site is easy to navigate and everything is in plain English. The are rates for them accepting the money for you. Everything has a fee otherwise what would be the point.

What I do like so far is that I have not found any bothersome pop-up or advertisements. There may be some on there but I have not ran across anything.

So far what I like is the ease of use, the automated announcements that you can get sent to your facebook page, your email as well as your twitter account.

Those are nice features to have as well as a nice looking widget to add to your blogs or sites of your choosing.

What I don't like is that they use a payer that I have never heard of WEpay. Anyone that is into business knows that these companies stick around for a year or two and then they are gone. But I did decide to give them ago. Many people may wonder why didn't I just get a donate button from PayPal.

I will go into that with my next post. I will let you know something about me though, PayPal is my go to for everything. I Love PayPal.

Net time we will discuss what I list as my pro's and cons with Kickstarter and then I will do a side by side of the two companies I am using to help raise $8,000.00 to help epand P.S.S. United.

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EPIPHANY

Tonight I was talking to my husband Antonio about how my life is going and I thought that hey I should write a personal blog.

I am a woman, a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, a friend, a business owner and many other things. I thought to myself if I died tonight what would I have left behind. What would my family and friends think of me once I am gone and what I came up with is not good enough to me so I know I have more things to accomplish.

I so desperately need to get motivated and make some power moves and this blog is one of the things that I will leave behind.

It is not everyday that you have an epiphany and are able to come to terms with what you personally need to do to become a better person. Well I will be sharing many of my life decisions with my readers and I am hoping that I can help someone on their journey to being the best them they can be.

Thank you for reading and I hope you enjoy my post and follow me.

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